Ah, New Years. It’s almost here folks….
Every year people flock to the gym looking to get their new year’s resolution going, itching to shed the pounds from the year before that they swore to themselves that they would shed the year before which turns into more pounds to shed the upcoming year. And a lot of people drop out of programs right from the start. They are discouraged that it isn’t in the form of a magic pill or that they’ll get results right away. Coming up this year, I’m going to be experiencing this at my gym. Mentally I’m prepping for a very busy time. We’ll get a lot of new clients, which I love, and get a lot of drop outs also, which I do not.
Are you a potential dropout? I hope not! I would hope that you are here reading this because you’re an asskicker. But then again, maybe you’re waiting to discover your inner asskicker. Maybe it’s time you did.
1) You expect too much too soon.
Probably the biggest way people bail on training programs at the start. Blame InstagramBook. Or the TwitteRest. People are constantly seeing pictures of the carved and shredded or the slim and saucy models out there in the world, thinking “that is how I want to look!” not realizing a few vital things. First, so many of those pics are photoshopped. Hell, I’ve photoshopped my own to go for a certain vibe. Second, what about the unfiltered selfies in the bathroom? People have to remember that it takes LOTS of work to get to a certain point where you have extremely low body fat and a lot of muscle mass. A lot. You have to be realistic. All the top models and fitness gurus have nutrition plans that are measured out to the milligram. They rarely stray from this to look as they do. Michelle Lewin didn’t become Michelle Lewin overnight (Yeah I know, she has implants. Whatever! I’m not a hater on body modification; I’m talking about the fitness aspects). She got her body by busting ass, learning all she could and getting it locked in point of where she consistently looks top shelf. It’s how people like her can make a living being a model. Keeping in mind even the top models have bad hair days and don’t always look photoshop perfect of course. It’s about hard work, education, applying what you knows and patience. You have to have patience with yourself. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. You can get to where you want to go, but it takes time my friends!
2) You don’t accept your body type.
For a long time, every guy in America wanted to be Brad Pitt in “Fight Club”. I’ll admit, he was cut up in that film. Know how he got to looking like that? No standard office job to keep him from boxing and training for hours and hours a day. And a flawless diet. About 2% of the guys in America or the world for that matter will ever be able to reach that exact body. Why? I’ll tell you why! You’re not Brad Pitt in “Fight Club”. You’re you. You have a different body, different amount of time to commit to training, food urges, things that drive food urges, habits, doubts, and everything else that makes you human. It’s ok. But accept your body type for what it is. Maybe you lose fat faster than build muscle. Or vice versa. Once you know your strengths and weaknesses you can make a better plan to stick to and overcome them. Acceptance on a lot of levels is golden. Being delusional about your physical self only leads to an eventual downfall. So accept who you are and how you are. And love who you are. You’ll get further this way.
3) You don’t understand that being healthy only works as a lifestyle.
The flash fad diet. One of the great evils in the world.
Starve yourself and look great. Take this pill and burn fat. Order now. Operators are standing by.
No. Nope. No way.
The people who have the results you want understood that consistency and discipline were what were going to be the keys to getting themselves in the shape they wanted. You cannot get there without those things. And those things become a part of your life. If you’re good at this, it will spill over into other areas of your life as well. Which is a GOOD thing. Give into the idea you will be working out 3-4 days a week. Accept that you will be eating better throughout the week. You can’t just do this for a few days and expect to look magazine flawless and feel like a Demigod. Say it with me “IT TAKES TIME!”
Fitness forced me to face many harsh truths about myself, which for a lot of folks, is frightening. It’s like going sober. Once you know who you truly are, without any candy coating, and can be open with yourself, you can start the process of improving yourself. If you consistently deny things, or turn a blind eye to those things that are wrong (I’ve been there and know how it’s done and used to give EVERY excuse in the book), you stay in the cycle where you’ve always been. Living in the negative feels awful. It is a stress and it feels like you’re carrying around a heavy kettle bell in a backpack all day. So be honest with yourself, but be KIND to yourself and accept where you’re at and know where you want to go. And if self-improvement through physical fitness is how you want to get there, you can. And will. Through self-love, through self-worth and through self-awareness. Then changing your lifestyle will seem more like a welcome addition than a chore.